10 Ways to love you Mother In Law
A mother in law can be a wonderful and difficult relationship. On your wedding day you pictured all of you being one big happy family. You had expectations of her role and you surely thought she would love you whole heartedly. But rarely is this reality. If you have wounds from your mother in law here are some things you can do to help heal the relationship.
#1 Forgive- remember that you have said and done things knowingly or not and we all need to grant and give forgiveness. Holding on to past hurts will be damaging to growing your relationship and will weep over to your kids and husband in a negative way
#2 Remember that your husband is a wonderful thank you gift from heaven. He may not be perfect but it is your mother in law who did her best and brought him in the world. She wasn't perfect and still isn't but have grace.
#3 Accept that she may see life and family much different than you. Allow her to express her feelings. She won't like everything you do just like you won't like everything she does.
#4 Try and bless her for no reason at all. Give her gift baskets for being your husband's mom. Let her know you appreciate all she did. Someone taught him to tie his shoes and say thank you. Find the good and squint when you see the bad
#5 Remember your husband chose you but he did not choose his mother. But he has a special place in his heart for both of you. Encourage him to express love to his mom.
#6 If you have kids teach them to honor their grandma. Be careful that you always build her up in front of them. As they grow older you can share about your differences. It is important to be real but do so in a positive manner
#7 Surprise her with a thank you gift basket she will never forget. List the 'Top 10 things you love about being her daughter n law'
#8 Remember it is okay to have boundaries. But be gracious and don't always have to have your way. Think about how you want your children's spouses to view you some day
#9 Don't expect the worse. Allow her to grow and change.
#10 Be a daughter. Love her unconditionally whether she deserves it or not. She is part of the package when you stepped into marriage. If you can embrace this step you will help create a solid marriage that can withstand anything'''..even a difficult mother n law.